Thursday, November 23, 2017

Pondering The 80's On Thanksgiving

It's really sad that the 80s, 90s and other times are long gone. It seems like it was just yesterday I was living in the 80s with my parents, trying to find my way in the world. It's amazing how time flies by without you ever really noticing, people can vanish from your life in a split second, so please make the most with your loved ones because you really don't know what you have until it's gone.

Back then people were friendlier and not on their phones all day like today, they definitely weren't walking on eggshells afraid to say the truth, whereas today one truthful word can lead to you losing your job or a bunch of people hunting you down and calling you a racist white privileged bigot, wanting to kill you. People would rather sugarcoat it than to be confronted with the harsh reality of the truth. This whole generation has given birth to a breed of overly sensitive narcissistic self absorbed individuals.

Mass shootings are now a daily occurrence, Islamic terrorism is worldwide everyday and basically social media has taken over the lives of many. Back then the real world was outside the screen and not something fake and pretentious presented on a screen. But hey all I can say is that those times are just simply a distant past forever lost in time. At least we have some beautiful things that are 80s that we can still cling onto and appreciate. One of my favorite songs back then ...... enjoy.

Sunday, January 29, 2017

Why Social Media and Politics Don't Mix

For me personally, I have many friends and family on Facebook/Twitter who are on both sides of the fence politically. From time to time I have thought about posted something politically charged, only to go back a little bit later and remove it after I’ve thought about the possible repercussions. I am now fully committed to never doing it again.

So, I’ve come up with some reasons why you shouldn’t post about politics on Facebook or Twitter Here you go…
1. You could lose a friend. Friends should be able to discuss political issues calmly and diplomatically…in person! Most people hide behind their computers and post things they would never say face to face.
2. You could lose a client. It’s not business, it’s personal…right? Bull crap! If a client feels strongly about a political issue and I go on Facebook/twitter and post something totally derogatory or counter to what they believe, they might take a different view of me personally and professionally. I want my clients to like me. People do business with people they know, like and trust. Period.
3. It’s a waste of time. You’re not going to change someone’s political beliefs on Facebook/twitter. You can debate and debate, but you’re just wasting your time. People are different and believe different things. Accept it, agree to disagree and move on. Life’s too short. Let your vote be your voice.
4. It’s the wrong platform. If you’re bound and determined to spend time arguing over political issues online, go to a political blog or a news site and do so. Don’t ruin everyone’s experience on Facebook/Twitter with your rants. You may have a specific list of friends on FB that you only share political information with, but you never know what someone else might share.
5. There’s enough politics in the media. One of the reasons I use Facebook/Twitter is to laugh, have fun and converse with my friends and family. I don’t use it to get worked up or stressed out over something I see that I disagree with. There’s enough political coverage in the mainstream media. More than enough. Keep it there and leave the politics to the pundits.

Let me add in what one of my friends a paramedic.. one of the first women medics in the deep south said this week. " Your likes and follows don't feed my family or pay my bills" " Your facebook rants and tweets won't change what I face in this rig on shift"  She goes on ... " If you ever spent a shift telling a family dad won't be coming home or a mother that her baby is dead you wouldn't be so quick to mouth off behind that phone or computer screen"

Let's all push back and rethink before posting.

Monday, April 25, 2016

Antigo Shooting.. .. My Take

This weekend shooting in Antigo has turned into a personal crusade for me. Not because of guns       or violence or any of the reasons you might think. Once I started digging into this and my old criminal psych training kicked in from days gone by it became clear why.

The young man who was the shooter was 18 in a small town, his girlfriend was younger and he was somewhat left behind by his classmates..betwixt and between so to speak. Well, as it turns out as an 18yr old I was somewhat in the same place with some of those feelings, not to the degree of Jakob but I certainly can associate where he might have been coming from. I know for certain the anguish he must have felt the last few weeks.

Now I had some outs at that time that Jakob didn't have and frankly there is no excuse for any 18yr old man in this country to feel like he was.  I felt compelled last night to intervene on this young mans instagram when I saw his ex girlfriend and family being victimized... for what ? A very talented and beautiful 17 yr old gets dumped on because she chooses to look at this young man from the outside not from his looks or what she heard ? It sickens me that we are so petty in our views of those who are labeled differently !

There are reports and after talking to some folks personally I confirm the young man wasn't bullied but victimized in school. Nobody cared and no one stopped it. But again we have hundreds of people who scream on their righteous soap box “it's not an excuse” ! Yes there is no excuse for his actions Saturday night. It doesn't mean you victimize his family and friends to feel better.

But alas, as a society we continue to turn our backs on children with special needs. We turn our backs on mental health because you know they all belong locked up. We turn our backs on anyone or anything that doesn't  seem“the norm” because it's uncomfortable or we can't cope.

Ladies and gentleman we have a problem as a society in that we prefer to not want to face the reality that we have a mental health crisis and issues with our youth. Stop letting the mainstream media play with your train of thought. Let's start treating those people that are not “right” with dignity and compassion. Rather than shunning them with hatred.

Because at the end of the day it takes a village to raise a child... and that's the long and the short of it.

Good night and god bless.


Saturday, October 24, 2015

The System Is Still Broke

I spent a good part of this week in Doctors offices. On Tuesday in a rather crowded room I sat next to young lady around 23 years old with 2 young kids in tow. After chit chat she told me her story. Single mother to 6 kids with 3 different dads.

So where do you work ? I asked. I don't as I get more for staying home on welfare then working. Her groceries are free, her kids on Peach care free. She gets a cell phone with 450 minutes free. Housing is only 125 mouth including utilities which 1 father pays for.

Basically this 23 old pays nothing in and is rewarded for having 6 kids. I am sorry but this behavior should not be rewarded. Mandatory work should be part of the equation but it's not.

We are not helping out anybody folks. It's all a big fat lie. We throw our elderly and vets under the bus and tell the working American to open their wallets. Oh but wait the "fiscal deficit " is fixed ?

Bull crap ! DC has raped the hard working american through pay roll tax and other fee based measures to prop up a policy that rewards lazy citizens.

I don't buy into any parties social policies because 98% of politicians have not had to follow a budget or work hard in their lives.

A change is needed again in DC, this group had 8 years to "fix " things and just like those before them have left a steaming pile on the floor of congress and the white house.

The names have all changed but things are the same... still broken !

That is the long and the short of it.

Sunday, June 28, 2015

My View: Removing flag won't end racism.. acting out against those that disagree fruitless

While our country tries to make sense of the Charleston church massacre, politicians, activist groups and concerned citizens have called for the removal of the Confederate battle flag from the S.C. State Capitol grounds. The Governor of S.C tried to comply along with other states because of a reactionary outcry from enraged media and the mass's.

Just as many are passionate about removing the flag due to the negative racial connotations it holds, others are passionate because the flag represents thousands of Confederate soldiers who lost their lives in our nation’s most violent war. Making generalizations about those who hold opposing viewpoints is ignorant and counterproductive to the debate. Not all flag proponents are racists, and not all flag opponents hate the South.
As companies like eBay, Walmart and Amazon initiate bans of the selling of the Confederate flag, one might hope that racism and hatred would dissipate but this is simply a pipe dream – the removal of a cultural icon won’t stop race-initiated violence.
In the wake of a tragedy like this, shifting our focus to a flag ignores the deeper issues that plague America like ingrained prejudice and discrimination. Instead, we should look at the hearts and actions of human beings and not the flag they choose to fly, because symbols represent different things to different people. It's time to look at other issues such as mental health and heroin addiction/drug abuse etc as well as socio economic issues. Don't take the easy way out.
That is the long and the short of it. 

Monday, September 15, 2014

The NFL.... Morals...Society and What Will Really Happen

So after a weekend media circus on the AP story and a counter by Ray Rice both stories led where I thought they would. First,  let me say I have no use for ANY man that strikes a woman, a child or an animal.

Your a straight out coward.... no strike that you're a worthless little toad of a human being. With that said we live in a very cruel society and way way too many people continue to miss the cold hard facts here.

First it's not a "pro sports "issue. It goes on daily to regular everyday people. So why do some of you pull the shocked and disgusted crap on social media when Barbara your neighbor down the street is getting roughed up ? Please refrain from BS me about your morals, etc when from many other posts you don't practice what you preach.

Second the NFL is a business. It's not here for the moral compass of the US. It operates for the bottom line. The NFL will NOT change when the stands are full and the ratings went up not down from this.

Again many of the "outraged" and it's disgusting crowd were watching the packer game...tweeting or writing /working their respective blogs. Your "outraged" but what the hell I'll fill the NFL coffers nonetheless. Basically you want your cake and eat too. Spare us the drama and focus on the real issues.

Until the laws in this country change and society starts holding everyone equally responsible not just those in the spotlight then frankly your all wasting time and blowing hot air.

I challenge each of you who really care to take a day off... go to your local civil/family/state court day and see what really goes on around you. Maybe just maybe you get to understand this issue in real terms ...not in the glaring TMZ spotlight.

That's the long and the short of it.


Sunday, July 13, 2014

Sunday Morning Thoughts And Rants

Another Sunday and Monday is oh so close. This restless weekend makes me wonder if social media is really worth the hassle.
So many people use it to push their personal political and social views now I can hardly stand it at times.I need it for my website which in a couple weeks is something I can get lost in again.... I need football season so I can unwind a bit again.

Reading Jason Wilde this morning while touching enrages me. That women still need to get "skinny" for society and any man is insane. Nothing wrong with curves and really it's the soul of a women that you need to touch to get a true attraction.

This should not be happening anymore. The fact we still can't provide mental help to people without it being taboo is disgusting and every politician is to blame.

On that same kind of subject we have had a running discussion on health care at the forum. It dawned on me last night after a lengthy talk on litigation attributing to the cost of health care that most of congress are lawyers ! Including Obama himself ! No wonder they don't pass laws to prohibit frivolous law's professional curiosity to their fellow attorneys !

On a different note my 86 year old mother is moving closer to my sister. This mess has stirred up more bad family blood. I love my mom dearly but my relationship with my siblings is so fractured that when my mom goes someday I doubt we talk much if at all anymore.

Really tough summer and one I hope ends soon. Have a great week and take what the good lord gives you each day with a smile.

Blessings to all